With the sleeping, I have found that what works when husband is at work does not work when he is home. Last week, everyday that husband was at work the baby napped (not the same amount or at the same time, but slept during the day and not in my lap), on the week-end when husband was home - no napping. It kills me that every evening, I sit there just hoping and hoping that the baby will go to sleep before husband gets home (Husband gets home at 9pm or 11pm dependent on day). I feel guilty, I want husband and baby to spend lots of time together, but if the baby is awake when husband gets home, it adds at least an hour until I get baby in his crib. Normally if baby wakes in the evening, it takes me maximum 20 minutes from the wake-up to back in the crib. Last Thursday baby had woken up about 2 minutes before husband got home. Husband came in and gave baby kisses and very quietly talked to him for a couple of minutes then left the room to go eat dinner. An hour and a half later the baby was back in his crib asleep. The baby just adores his daddy so much that he can't calm down.
The baby also adores the dog. He calls the dog and talks to the dog and tries to play with the dog. The other night, the dog was in the living room instead of baby's room while I was nursing him to sleep. The baby kept unlatching to look around for the dog and calling him. I finally had to call the dog into the room so that the baby would nurse.
One week-end afternoon, the baby was sitting on my lap with husband to my right, and the dog to my left. The baby would turn to his dad and smile, turn to the dog and smile, turn to his dad and laugh, turn to the dog and laugh. He did not once stop in the middle to give mom even a glance. Every day I feed the baby, change the baby, hug the baby, play with the baby, carry the baby, encourage him in his development, help him get to sleep, and most of all keep him alive. Very frustrating that Dad gets the big laughs, the shy smiles, the giggles and the adoration while I get the crying.